Remember Me

My Mom often said, “It doesn’t hurt to ask. If you don’t ask, you won’t know.” She was right.

People are so often stressed about not being “good enough”, but the most powerful evidence that Heaven is gained by faith alone – not by any human effort – may be the testimony of a dying criminal who just asked.

Jesus on the cross was bloody, gory, weak, suffering, publicly shamed and ridiculed. In the eyes of most, there was nothing to recommend Him as a human or king, and certainly not as any kind of savior. He was accused of being – and, indeed, appeared to be – a lying, blasphemous, cult-leader of a criminal under a common death sentence with two other criminals. In that moment, His appearance gave no one cause for faith. Those suffering and dying with Him were admittedly guilty. They had no good works that were recorded, they certainly were not baptized, did not speak in tongues or prophesy, and had no time left to perform redemptive acts. In that moment, they had nothing to offer anyone – certainly not God. Like many in the crowd, the criminals jeered and taunted the bleeding, dying Jesus.

But one of them changed.

And he said, “Jesus, remember me when you come into your Kingdom.” He was on a cross, scared, dying in shame and agony. Couldn’t hurt to ask, right?

Nowhere is it written that Christ said, “Sorry – you need to be baptized. You need good works. You need evidence of the Spirit. Sorry, man.”

Instead, at this evidence of faith alone – a shaky faith born of pain and fear – Jesus told him, “Today you shall be with me in Paradise.”

As Jesus bore the darkness of this world into death to earn redemption for all who believe, he took along the criminal dying right next door. Just because he asked.

No other reason.

So do Christ followers need to do good things? Should we study the Bible, love one another, and act kindly? Yes, of course. But we are called to lives of love and caring and acts of goodness because we have already received grace and are already destined for Heaven, and because we want to share His mercy and our hope with others any way we can. Not because we need to earn our way to Heaven – that way has already been earned for us. We have chosen to believe, we have asked in faith, so Christ has given the gift of eternity. He remembers us – always.

So today, if you just want a some peace in your life, some hope, some assurance, some comfort – even if you are not sure who He is or how He can give it – try a little faith. It doesn’t hurt to ask. If you don’t ask, you won’t know.

“Jesus, remember me.”

Resurrection chalk art by our family. Design chosen by our daughter Maggie.

Cooking with Maggie: Pixar Movie Food Day – Ratatouille!

My awesome daughter Maggie (with the superpower of autism!) is once again researching and creating menus based on Pixar Movies. Most recently, she developed four (YES! FOUR!) full days of meals based on the movie Ratatouille, a mere ONE MOVIE! If you read my previous blog on this topic, you know that she was able to get FOUR Toy Story movies into ONE day of food. But then – Toy Story was not actually based on food and Ratatouille is, so there’s that. If you have not seen the movie, just know that it involves an upscale French restaurant and rat who cooks gourmet food. Appetizing . . .

So Maggie and I have a system: She decides on the movie focus, finds sources online for menu and recipe ideas from Pixar movies (and she’s certainly not the only one who likes movie-based food!), creates her own idea list, and sends me links. We go over the menus together. My mission is to take her list, simplify it if needed, and – especially in the case of Ratatouille – make any gourmet dishes actually affordable. Together, we cook enough for the whole family, Maggie photographs the food before sitting down (all the photos seen here are hers), and we dig in. Maggie and I are experimental eaters and will pretty much try anything. Other members of our beloved family are not quite so adventurous, although we do our best to make everything palatable! Here are the recipes for our ONE day of Ratatouille completed thus far. I am pretty sure she has a dream of doing the other three days down the road, but Wall-E is up next and it will be remarkably easy so I am ignoring the cooking rodent movie for the immediate future.

NOTE: Many of Maggie’s suggestions come from http://disneymeals.me. We frequently do not follow their recipes since we often find purchased or homemade alternatives that work better for us, but it’s a cool resource.

Breakfast
Cheese cubes
Strawberries
Lightening-y Mushrooms

Whew! Breakfast was not difficult. The cheese cubes had to be cheddar and the strawberries, fresh. Lightening-y Mushrooms (so named because two characters in the movie were actually struck by lightening while making them) are basically baby portobellos stuffed with goat cheese and baked. The recipe is located at the site mentioned above and, for once, we pretty much followed it.

Lunch
Caesar Salad with Salmon (but without the Salmon)
Cheese Souffle

We purchased bagged Caesar Salad at Sam’s Club because we already like it. I decided to take a short cut and use canned salmon, but hadn’t purchased it in years so failed to recall that some of it comes with all the bones and skin still intact in the can. You will note in the photo that our Caesar salad is unadorned by salmon. And that’s all I have to say about that (Forrest Gump reference? Yes).

On a more positive note, we were ecstatic to find a lovely recipe for Easy Cheese Souffles by Chef John at allrecipes.com! The recipe did sound simple, but I have heard culinary horror stories about souffles falling dramatically – especially if you mess with the recipe. However, the recipe called for two 5.5 ounce ramekins and we had six 8 ounce, so without hesitation or trepidation (maybe a little trepidation) we promptly multiplied the recipe by four. Good times. Ha. And I have to tell you that CHEF JOHN TOTALLY KNOWS HIS STUFF!! We increased the cooking time to accommodate the larger size, but those souffles popped right up like little Queen Elizabeth hats and DID NOT FALL! The x4 recipe came together easily, exactly filled our six ramekins, and tasted delicious!

Dinner
Seared Beef
Wild Rice
Vegetables
Mille Feuille

Steak can be expensive – so Sam’s Club to the rescue once again! We found affordable cuts and used an electric skillet to sear and cook the steaks in our usual way. Would a cast iron skillet have been a bit more gourmet? Mmmm – possibly! But you go with what you’ve got. And the wild rice? Helllooo, Uncle Ben! Great stuff, easy prep. The veggie selection suggested on disneymeals looked perfect so we lightly grilled zucchini, yellow squash, red pepper, and a bit less onion than recommended (since some in the fam think onions were invented solely to be sliced in rings, coated with batter, and fried).

Of course we websearched how to pronounce Mille Feuille, so everybody speak up and say: “mil foy”. There you go – say it often and spell it never. We were happy to find ready-to-bake puff pastry (Pepperidge Farm) but realized we would need to make the pastry cream so again turned to ever-reliable allrecipes.com. Success! If you need a delicious, simple, and affordable 5-star pastry cream recipe, look for the effectively titled Pastry Cream by Christinibeanie. Maggie was marvelously efficient at the constant stirring to prevent scorching and the cream cooked up with an addicting taste and very nice consistency!

While the cream chilled, we placed each raw pastry sheet on a parchment-covered baking sheet, neatly sliced it into three equal rectangular strips, covered those with a layer each of parchment and foil, set another baking sheet on top to keep the pastry flat while cooking, then gently smashed the sheets further with a spatula while still warm. We created a light icing of milk and powdered sugar with just a touch of lemon. After the pastry cooled, Maggie spread the chilled cream thickly on two strips of pastry and iced the top layer before stacking, then we carefully cut the rectangular stacks into square portions. Maggie decorated them with Ghirardelli Premium Sauce Chocolate syrup (in the red bottle). And I gotta say – the Mille Feuille tasted incredible! We actually had enough cream and pastry leftover to make a fresh batch for dessert the next night, as well, so I think my calorie load has been met for the next couple of months.

If you are not sure about doing an entire Ratatouille day and decide to just try one or two things, I highly recommend the Souffle and the Mille Feuille. Enjoy!

Sitting on Go: Preparedness on a Modest Income

Our family recently endured the snowpocalyptic polar vortex that hit Texas. We lost power for 28 hours in addition to random shutdowns and our home was without running water from sometime after midnight Monday the 15th until Tuesday the 23rd because our water line froze at the meter and subsequently had 9 breaks (all eventually fixed by my handy husband!). We fared much better than many who were longer without services as well as others whose homes and lives were damaged and we do request your ongoing prayers for our area.

Our income supports five adults – including three with immune or developmental issues – on a single modest paycheck. So when I say that it is possible to prepare for a crisis while living week to week financially, know that I am speaking from experience, not theory. It is impossible to be prepared for everything, but having general emergency preparedness is both confidence-building and comforting.

REMEMBER! The idea is to do this gradually, as your budget permits.

1.I will begin with this: Trust God, pray often, be aware of His nudges and the opportunities He presents to provide early for a possible crisis. Life is nothing if not unexpected and things rarely go the way we plan in this fallen and difficult world. God is so much more than just a backup plan.

2. Be a good neighbor! The best way to have kind, friendly neighbors is to be one yourself. You don’t need to be besties, but neighborly connections are important for amiable living and are also nice to have if an emergency arises for either of you. My husband is great at wandering the neighborhood making friends. I am often better online, so I know that joining your neighborhood or community social media group (on Nextdoor, Facebook, or similar) can be a great way to get to know people. We woke in the wee hours the first day of Snowpocalypse (Monday, February 15) with our water frozen at the meter and our neighbors kindly filled our water jugs for the day until we got our snow melting going (for flushing) and their water went out. My husband shoveled the nextdoor neighbor’s walk first thing in the morning and, after everyone’s power went out, we offered use of our gas stove. Neighborhood as well as social media connections made us aware of needs in the neighborhood both during and after the event and my husband (a capable driver on snow and ice) was able to assist.

3. Build your pantry as you can afford. Stock up gradually by purchasing an extra non-perishable item or two for the pantry whenever you are able. Online preppers tend to push for stocking up on dried food, rice, and beans, but we can’t afford to stock up on stuff we don’t eat regularly and neither do we have the space to store it. Buy things your family normally consumes because you will need to rotate through the items to avoid expiration dates. For instance, my family loves turkey chili so I try to always have several cans on the shelf, using the oldest cans first. I do the same with canned chicken, canned tuna, pasta, soup, refried beans, flour, sugar, condiments and other items that we use regularly. We also have an extra refrigerator in the garage (look for a cheap or free older frig or freezer online) and I buy similarly for frozen food. My family likes fresh, perishable foods, but we use enough canned and frozen goods to make the system work. If you have critters, don’t skip the pet food. This is a gradual process and food and water are the most important but, as you can, add in backups for such items as bandages, soap, and cleaning supplies.

4. Shop ahead if possible. Keep an eye on the weather and current events and shop accordingly. Last-minute panic buying occurs just before a weather or other high impact event. Early in the week before Snowpocalypse when the forecast was for about four days of rough weather, I decided to plan for seven to ten days – just in case! – and went to a normally stocked and uncrowded store to purchase just a bit over my usual list. I didn’t have to overstretch my budget because I knew my pantry and freezer were in good shape. I forgot to get cheese, though, and when my husband stopped by the store for it after work on February 12th, he snapped the photo you see here. Be aware. Shop. Early.

5. Water! We were pretty sure we would lose power, but were not expecting the extended loss of water. However, we like to take spontaneous mini roadtrips so we usually have a case or two of water bottles standing by because taking food and beverages with us instead of eating out is a significant savings! I also occasionally buy the random gallon jug to have a few on hand. Before a weather event I purchase extra since a flooding rainstorm can result in a notice to boil drinking water. We were careful with drinking/washing water during the polar vortex and we had enough to get through.

6. Heat. During the snow event, I was so thankful that we live in a small, one-story house with a fireplace! We all enjoy a warm and cozy fire on winter nights, so throughout the year we stock up by saving wood from our own tree trimming and sometimes pick up what neighbors leave on the curb for City chipping. My husband recently found a used Buddy heater and I highly recommend saving up and shopping for a used one, if you can – especially if you are without a fireplace. Gotta say, that is one area we did not plan ahead and had only four canisters for the Buddy, so mostly heated with firewood. I lit the gas burners on the stove to take the early morning chill off the kitchen. And definitely supply your home with extra blankets! We have purchased lovely, warm, like-new comforters and quilts very affordably at thrift stores and yard sales. Our kids are sensory and love snuggly things, so we actually have way too many blankets for our normal Texas climate – but it worked out well for us this time!

7. Let there be light! We live in an older neighborhood where the power goes out pretty regularly during electrical storms. Over the years I have supplied everyone with flashlights as stocking stuffers at Christmas and we also own heavier duty lights for emergencies, repairs, and general use. We purchase batteries on sale to stay stocked. But our best source of light during outages? Candles! A few tapers provide adequate light and can be acquired cheaply (along with inexpensive holders) almost anywhere, including most dollar stores. Candles that melt down into a glass container are primarily decorative and do not give as much light as tapers. Camping lanterns also work, of course, but we only have one of those so mostly stick with candles. And do NOT use candles for night lights! All candles (and the fireplace) should never be unattended and need to be extinguished when you go to bed.

8. Paper goods – not necessary, but incredibly helpful! I have a confession to make: we indulge in the luxury of paper plates. I know there are those who are critics of this but I gotta say – it saved our bacon when we went nine days without water! I occasionally buy paper bowls and plastic utensils for special events so we still had those and I definitely plan to keep them in my emergency stash. We do not use paper napkins, choosing cloth napkins for regular use because they are effective, versatile, and easy to wash, but do use paper towels for certain types of cleaning and were thankfully stocked up. If you have a fireplace, random paper products around your house (paper plates, food boxes, paper towels, scrap paper, junk mail) make great kindling.

9. Cooking with limited ability to wash: Our gas stove can be lit manually so I was able to use the stove top without power. Certain foods stick to my preferred stainless steel cookware, so I also have a large nonstick saucepan and large nonstick skillet (with lids). I was so very thankful for these! Just for fun, we made fudge by candlelight during the power outage and the nonstick saucepan cleaned up easily with a paper towel and minimal water. Keep an extra roll of foil around, as well; we poured the warm fudge into a foil-lined pan, and during the days with no water I cooked in the oven by lining crockery and baking sheets with foil for minimal cleanup.

10. Stay charged! We all have portable charge units (AKA battery bricks or portable/solar chargers) so we can keep our phones and other small electronics working when traveling or away from an outlet for any reason. Obtain these as you can afford, plug them in regularly and keep them powered. A good portable charge unit with solar recharge ability also makes a great gift for anyone in the family frequently frustrated by dead electronics! During power outages here when we are without wifi or a consistent cell signal, we are still able to use the random signals to periodically send through texts and calls since we keep our phones and tablets powered.

Bonus Thought: Entertainment – games, books, etc. – Yup! You need this stuff! If you or your children’s primary form of entertainment involves electronics, then be sure you have games, books, and/or puzzles to while away the hours. Even if you have charge units or a generator, you may need to conserve the power in those so have a few old-school forms of entertainment ready.

Whether your overall income is modest or you are on a tight budget trying to get out of debt, save for house, or support a large family, building your supply base is crucial – and not only for a possible national crisis or weather event. Like many, our income and expenses do not always match comfortably, so stocking up bit by bit when we are able has really saved us when the money doesn’t make it to the end of the month. It is decidedly reassuring to look into the supply closet and pantry and know a good meal will grace the table no matter the circumstances.

Just Do It

There is absolutely no reason to believe actors, athletes, or any other celebrities are more knowledgeable or insightful than the rest of us about political or social issues. Like everyone, they are entitled to expressing their opinions – but those opinions need not be screamed out to the world as they do the actual jobs they are being paid so highly to do. As with most of us in this world, their work and their opinions should have separate venues for expression. 

When I order food at a drive-thru, I don’t need to know the cook’s political views in order to enjoy my meal. He can most certainly act on what he believes on his own time, but I don’t expect those thoughts to be seared into my burger.

When I watch a movie, I want to be entertained. When I watch sports, I want to see a game. That’s all. I really just want them to do their job.

Oxygen

If you are, like me, a mom of amazing special needs children, then you completely understand when I tell you that hope is the very air I breathe.

Some days I am left gasping amid the debris of shattered dreams. My lungs constrict with fears for my children’s futures, their wellbeing, their happiness, their faith. In these moments, I breathlessly cry out to God with all that is in my heart – and He hears.

He hears. And I rest in knowing that He is always there and He loves my children more than I can ever imagine, and my faith is strengthened. Hope again saturates my soul and fills my lungs for the beloved marathon of blessing my family another day.

God. Is. My. Oxygen.

We Will Remain

I live in one of the top 25 most ethnically diverse cities in Texas. Within that city, I live in a recognized ethnically diverse neighborhood, on a very ethnically diverse street. My husband and I moved here in 1993 as newlyweds, raised our children here, and still remain safely and comfortably . . . here. Our neighborhood is a good, solid, lower-middle income bastion of teachers, police officers, blue collar workers, tradesmen, nurses, sales people, and small business owners. Folks who do important jobs but don’t earn important money. We also have our share of retirees, single income families, and first-time home buyers.

In our 27 years in this town, the population has boomed from 7,000 to 64,000. In all that time, with all that growth, we have not had reason to worry about safety or racial hostility. We love our town and conduct most of our business and have most of our fun here side by side with our neighbors. We shop, play, eat out, visit parks, attend movies, etc. in a community that is ethnically diverse and pretty much contented to be so. Our citizens like our police force (judging by all the support for them I see online) and appreciate first responders and those who serve. People here seem willing to make the effort to be generally thoughtful, informed, and kind in order to live everyday life in a safe, amiable environment.

We are an average American town.

So why am I sharing this? Because we are an average American town. Of course, we are concerned by what happens in the world. Of course.  But most of us, in all our American diversity, are living out our daily lives, loving our families, caring for neighbors, doing our jobs, paying bills, supporting one another, being friendly and kind when we meet in public. Most towns like ours not only do just fine with ethnic diversity, we genuinely appreciate the differences everyone brings to the table.

Most of us are not caught up in rioting and protesting and hysteria. We are the quiet majority who do not believe that rage and violence are real solutions. We believe in America, we believe our people are generally growing and striving to do right, and we are patiently and actively waiting for this moment in history to resolve, hoping that it does not upend the lives we have worked so hard to build. 

And – make no mistake – we are the builders and the heartbeat of this nation. We vote, we volunteer, we work hard, we care. We are the ones who hope, who believe, who persevere. We are patriots. And we are praying every day that our country will not be decimated by those pursuing destruction, violence, and power in a misguided attempt to wrest away the lives we cherish and the freedoms that make possible the lives, hopes, and dreams of millions of Americans.

We are not violent or loud or radical so the news media ignores us. But we are, in fact, most of America. We are still the deep root and solid core of this country. And we will remain.

Sufficiently Decaffeinated

Life has been crazy busy lately so a few months back I started dosing my morning java with a triple shot every day.

What’s that? You want the recipe for a quick and easy homemade triple? Okay – since one cup of instant coffee is a rounded teaspoon, you make a triple by dumping a heaping tablespoon of instant coffee into your cup before adding your usual amount of brewed very hot coffee (I use the largest cup setting on the Keurig) and follow up with any additives. I add almond milk and a dollop or two of sweetener. Ice if desired. Voila! Better than Starbucks! Well, at least cheaper and just as effective 😁.

Anyway – today I decided might be getting mildly(?) addicted to all the caffeine so should maybe cut back, and actually used a decaf pod to make my coffee! Aren’t you proud?

Of course, I still added the full caffeine triple shot. I’m not an idiot.

Don’t Wait

The complicated present world is going to give us all more than enough darkness and sorrow to bear – humanity has messed up from the beginning of time and we will continue to do so. But the God who loves, lives, and never leaves offers love, comfort, hope, and a future.

The world will not always be like this. Those of us who have read the Book know how it ends. There will be an epic battle – but there will also be victory and rejoicing and peace.

The thought of eternity might be thrilling or terrifying to you (maybe both) but I encourage you to embrace the forever hope we have in Christ. Embrace it, and pass it along to all those around you. Everyone needs hope. Everyone needs joy.

Don’t wait until life is perfect or until you think you are brave enough to speak truth. Truth is always a risk and life will never be perfect – all the prophets, apostles, and great men of faith who ever lived can testify to that!

Joy can always be TAKEN.
Hope can always be GIVEN.
Salvation is always OFFERED.
The Lord can always be PRAISED –
Because the Love of God is always present
and will never, ever, ever end.

Small Things in a Time of Crisis

Internet communication and media entertainment and information are helpful and convenient right now, but do be careful in how you think of yourself in the realm of all you see. We can’t all be COVID-19 media famous! We can’t all be volunteers in our communities, or first responders, or have shelter-in-place exempted essential jobs. But you are so very valuable and whatever you are called to do in this moment – whatever is in front of you right now – is important. Even the small things matter. Especially the small things matter.

My husband and I have three brilliant, amazing young adult children with special needs, still home. Two are on the autism spectrum and one has autoimmune disorders and is immune system compromised so we are being careful. I help out friends when I can but my time is primarily committed to keeping our family moving forward and de-stressed as well as maintaining the household. We are not perfectly organized, not frenetically sterilized, and definitely not ready for YouTube! Our house is a bit small for five people and four pets, and we live in every corner of it. We are a single-income family and my husband’s hours have been cut so we are also working to pinch those pennies extra hard, but he is at least still employed and I am thankful for that. It is a crazy time and keeping everything running relatively smoothly with moderate peace in our home is more than a full time job. This is our life right now. Can you relate?

I laugh when the news airs segments about what to do with all the alleged extra down time! How to self-improve, new books to read, what media to watch, how to get in shape, and so on. I love my family so much, but they are time-consuming. Anxiety can be a profound issue with our beautiful early-20s children and sometimes my most important tasks of the day involve giving loving care, compassionate comfort, laughter and distractions, reassurances, and especially prayer. All these activities are precious but also intangible – no matter the hours or energy I expend, most of what I do leaves no lasting mark that will breathe beyond me on the world stage. Yet my job is so very important and valuable in the moment it needs to be done.

So here’s the thing – I am never going to be famous for my accomplishments during this time. You probably won’t either. Most of us won’t. History books will not reflect my name or my non-income job as a mom, home administrator, home lay therapist, and caretaker and say, “Wow! Look what this person did during the 2020 corona crisis!” When I see people doing amazing things on the news, I need to be at peace with the fact that I am not one of those people. But the person I am right now is the person God is calling me to be right now, doing my best to be patient and loving with what is before me right now (some days are pretty darn great and others have some epic fails!), and staying as faithful and committed as I can be – right now, in this moment, and each day as we travel this wild and unpredictable timeline in world history.

Mother Teresa said, “Not all of us can do great things. But we can do small things with great love.” A slice of of wisdom that is both an observation and a challenge. Let’s meet that challenge.

Dear Grandpa & Grandma –

Today, I was reminded of the importance of keeping love and passion alive within. While sorting documents, I found this letter I wrote in 1989 in memory of my maternal grandparents. The memory of their faith and love lives in my heart.

Dear Grandpa and Grandma,

Keith & Lela’s Wedding Photo, 1924

I am writing this letter to you and sharing it with family and friends because I had to put into words what I learned from your lives. I’m sorry I didn’t understand it well enough to tell you when you were here, but maybe I didn’t know it then.

To live is to age. You taught me not to fear either. 

Lela Mabry, c. 1922

A few years ago, Grandma,  you told me about the time very recently when you were scrubbing the church floor with other women in the church. You felt a little faint from the odor of ammonia and stood for a moment, leaning against the wall. A younger woman came up and said, “Mrs. Roper, are you all right?” And you thought to yourself, “Good heavens, she thinks I’m old!” After you told me this, we looked at each other and laughed! Old? You? What a silly idea!

Keith Roper, Football Captain, 1923

And Grandpa, I remember after Grandma died – I came in and sat on the edge of your bed and held your hand and you told me about her last few days and moments and we both cried. Listening to you talk about Grandma touched me deeply. Your love for her was certainly mature and strong, yet still so fresh and incredibly sweet. I knew then that you were not merely mourning the loss of complacent companionship – you were mourning the loss of a wife beloved with a passion stronger and more vibrant than the day you were married.

I have watched the two of you never grow old, for you waited upon the Lord and He renewed your strength, and you have flown on the wings of eagles to stand before the very throne of God in all your beauty and youth and vigor – just the way you were intended to be.

You were young when I knew you . . . You are younger now.

1974. 50 years of love, commitment, faith.

Oh, I am not afraid to live.  In you, I have seen two who have followed Jesus to the last. I have learned that life is not so long that it is to be feared, and the reunion with the Father will surely be very sweet. I will always remember the maturity of your spirits and the sparkle of youth in your eyes, and I have great hope because your Lord is also my Lord and, like you, I will never grow old.

Thank you for loving me. I do thank God for you. I know that he understands how great a gift you were to me and I hope you understand it now, too.

I love you both and miss you, but plan to see you in the twinkling of an eye.

Love, Karen

Grandpa & Grandma’s 50th Anniversary Celebration with their children and grandchildren.